The pain of reality
What do you do if you’ve been exposed to the pain of life at a young age? What do you do when the people who were supposed to show you love and care leave you or don’t treat you right? What if you’ve never been able to think of what you actually want, due to the high expectations, little opportunities or many disappointments?
Hopelessness; the pain
How can you ever make a wish again? When you’ve seen the most horrific things happen in your life… I don’t even need to mention them for you to know exactly which ones I mean..
The things that make you isolate yourself in a corner. The pain that causes you to want to avoid all the people and or things that trigger that pain or reactions that you can’t control.
The pain of waiting and hoping for something, but years go by and it’s like nothing has changed or nothing has been going well… The battle in your mind on whether to give up on your dream and “be realistic” and staying hopeful, pursuing that what you truly want, even if at the moment it seems so impossible.
All I can say is I feel you, I haven’t always been there, but I feel you and I’m sorry you had to go through that, but I’m proud you did. That’s what makes who you are today! You are exactly where you were supposed to be. You are amazing 🤩
Now I do understand that after all that you’re done trying to stay hopeful. You’re done trying to hope for the impossible and that you think that the only thing that’s possible is what you do for yourself, but that’s not true. There is still hope… I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s there. The one who searches away finds.
There’s always a way to turn things around. There’s a way to do better, to see more and experience beyond what you think or imagine.
Not by yourself though, because it’s He who is in me that gives me courage and He who is above me that makes a way.
Hoping hurts! Expecting hurts!
Trying hurts!But you can’t give up!
And no, you will never know whether it will be truly worth it unless you stand the test of time and try.
But it’s better to hope and expect than to lose your passion for life.
How to overcome pain
There’s only one way to overcome the pain of what has happened, it’s by focusing on Him and what’s ahead. The more energy you put into your future the less pain you feel over your past. Here’s a verse to hold onto in those moments:
Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy.
psalm 126:5-6 niv
Those who go out weeping, carrying seed to sow,
will return with songs of joy, carrying sheaves with them.
I’d like to encourage you to awaken those dreams and hopes that you shoved deep down inside you and are trying to forget about. The wishes and desires for things that you’ve always wanted, you’ll get it, believe, work towards it and you’ll be there faster than you think.
Start working towards those, work with gratitude in your heart, remembering that in all that you are doing you are not alone. Remembering that with all that comes at you He is there as well! Knowing that one day you will reap the harvest.
Be careful though. Don’t put your hopes in the thing that you want, which will make you forget the One who is carrying you through life right now.
I know it’s not easy, but hold onto the Word, that’s the only thing that will keep you standing.
So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.
John 16:22 esv
6 Practical tips to overcome pain
- Write down the vision you have for your life; whenever you read it, it’ll be a reminder of your why
- Keep a journal; everytime you’re feeling something, make sure to write it down.
- Focus on the Lord: keep your eyes on Him. Focus on His goodness, when listening to worship songs, make sure you listen to the songs that uplift Him, that helps more in such seasons than focusing on your thoughts about it all.
- Whenever you feel the pain come up again, give it to the Lord.
- It’s okay to cry sometimes! It’s okay to take a moment and cry about it. It still hurts, sadness and hope can exist together at the same time
- Surround yourself with someone who knows about what you’re going through. Confess to them, reach out to them when things are going well and when things are hard.
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Have a blessed week!
Big love,
Joy
